Thursday, October 12, 2017

How to Listen so People will Talk

Becky Harling has written a compelling book helping us navigate the world of conversation. I was interested in reading Ms. Harling's book mostly due to the fact that I sometimes feel, not only that people don't really "talk",but because I wanted to understand how to listen and talk with others.

"How to Listen so People will Talk" begins with listening to God's voice. In John 6:45, the scripture states - "And they shall all be taught of God. Everyone who has heard and learned from the Father, comes to me." Self evaluation of tangible ways to listen to God's voice.

Secondly, she brings insight in how humility draws people to open up. We need to prioritize our relationships by following Jesus examples focusing on the needs of others. Jesus did not push his opinions on others. He listened and only spoke truth in response.

It's important to focus on listening to find feelings. How is the person feeling when they share. Ms. Harling suggests questions to ask that allows people to explore what's in their hearts. 

I thought it was interesting that 80% of a successful conversation involves good listening.

Becky Harling outlines practical ways on how to be a better listener and to listen better. There are questions we can ask ourselves when we feel the need to give advice rather than listen.  And when you ask good questions, you turn your ear to wisdom and apply your heart to understanding (Proverbs 2:2)  
In our day of electronic devices, this is well worth reading, to keep lines of communication open with people we know, work with, and love. 
I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from the publisher. All views expressed are my honest opinion.

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